So You Say I
Won’t Find Him?
Let me begin by
saying I have never been in a relationship. I don’t have any experience that I
can stretch and count as a relationship. I just haven’t been in one. And that’s
okay. We live in a society where relationships define us and are often mistaken for worth. We are surrounded by movies
and media that lead us to believe that love is physical. It’s about the kissing
and the hugging and the holding hands. When in fact, it is more. That is what
people forget. You don’t have to believe in God to admit that relationships
should be more than physical. They should be more than a male buying you things
or telling you that you are beautiful. Believe me, those things are lovely, but
they are just things and not the foundation of a relationship. We all crave something deeper.
And this is
where it begins… I never dated in high school and not by choice. It just wasn’t
a thing for me and that’s alright. I am extremely grateful that I didn’t
because where I am now is not where I was in high school with reason. We live
in a society in which “being single” is seen as a negative thing. People show pity to
other people who are single. But did you think that some people just want to be
single? Maybe it isn’t their choice, but did you ever think they were content
with it?
These are my
thoughts... I have been a single gal for 21 years. Even though I went through my
forever alone and very moody Twitter phase when I was 17, I don’t even know who
that girl is. Because the one I am now knows this without a doubt. She is loved more than she
can imagine by God. He made her in His image. He is the only one who will be
there when everything fades. Above all, He chooses to love her every day and is
actually giving her the time of day. What is He thinking when she starts
obsessing over a guy no matter how great he may be? Girls obsess over guys who
don’t even know they exist or who don’t feel the same way, when God is always
there loving her and giving her the time of day. That is what is important: The
love of the Cross. He died FOR YOU! Let’s be real. When you go to bed at night,
whether it is alone or with someone who loves you, you still only have
yourself. I am sure that you are wonderful and awesome! Why not enjoy that
person? As far as I’m concerned the only relationships that need to thrive in
my life are my relationship with myself and my relationship with my creator.
I’ve only known myself. I have never known myself with anyone else. Anyone else
besides the one who really matters: Jesus Christ. What is so wrong with that?
People make it out to be bad if you are single. Did you ever think I like being
single or enjoy myself enough to not find my identity in anyone but WHO GOD
MADE ME TO BE?
It’s an
important place to be. I think it’s an important place for everyone to be. So
this brings me to my last point. I am not anti-dating or anti-relationship, BUT
I know what is the most important to me. I have a list of qualities I want in a
future spouse. Maybe they are high standards. Some say they are unrealistic,
but it’s hard to find someone who matches up to the ultimate example of love: Jesus
Christ. So you say I’ll never find someone who encompasses my list? I challenge
your notion. My list isn’t based on perfection. I am reflected in my list. They
are qualities I possess that I think would be pretty appealing in a partner. I know I
am not perfect and neither is this list. I’m going to keep searching and you
can keep to yourself. Because even if I don’t find him, I still have Him and He
thinks I am to die for!
